I have been reminded of old friends, lately. I say “old friends” as a way to acknowledge that life seasons has taken us to different places. So, it has been years since we have truly connected. Leaving me feeling like we have “broken up” in a sense.
Chronic illness leaves that effect on my friendships. We tend to end up parting ways whether due to their choice or just varying seasons.
And, it is hard.
And, I miss them terribly.
. . . However if there is anything I have learned about chronic illness and friendships, you cannot just blurt out “I miss you. We haven’t spoken in years.” and expect a warm welcome of “me too.”
I want “Jonathan and David” kind of friendships, where we allow ourselves to take part in vulnerable, risk taking, friendships. I know, they were not without their share of problems. But, they showed each other just how much they cared for one another. Ya know?
1 After David had finished talking with Saul, he met Jonathan, the king’s son. There was an immediate bond between them, for Jonathan loved David. 2 From that day on Saul kept David with him and wouldn’t let him return home. 3 And Jonathan made a solemn pact with David, because he loved him as he loved himself. – 1 Samuel 18:1-3
These two men became immediate, amazing friends. Now for us today, we may not be someone who makes immediate friends. A lot of us have to work very hard and stay prayerful about this need in our lives, because we don’t have that many people in our corner – cheering faithfully for us!
But, I love the reminder of our God’s greatness and He can bring amazing Christ centered friendships into our lives! There is nothing too hard for our God. So even though I get heavily discouraged about my lack of strong friendships, I need to lift my eyes to the Heavens, and remember He is able to bring amazing friendships into my life.
I need to scroll through His Word, rather than social media.
Here is a good place to debunk the idea that they were more than friends.